INFERIORITY COMPLEX...

Being the victim of inferiority complex from the minds of other is fine, yet being victim of the inferiority complex of our own self is far more worse, degrading and inflicting.

Sometimes the sorrow and sadness just keep us occupied. There is nothing but blankness that  hampers the very schedule of one's routine. The source of such state are numerous. They are just countless that nothing specific comes to our mind and mouth, even if we try to take sometime and note down on the sheet of paper. It is just impossible.and this is strange in fact!May be that's why such sorrow and sadness or depression so to say is so dangerous and unpredictable for we can't really see its depth.Of course we do know something is wrong but not what we are up to.
Just like a bird with weak wings have tough time resisting the strong current of winds, so is the life of a men with weak background and a weak steps to step upon. Frequent deceptions and prejudices conquers the life of ours disrupting and killing the very energy of motivation and eagerness. it weakens the very bond of relationship and trust.
The philosophy of Buddhism says that wealth or money means nothing when it comes the gate of death for we can't take with us, well that is obvious, however I personally feel that we humans are what wealth like money makes us.It seems to control every kind of situations and circumstances and even the emotions. when these abandons us everything around us seems to neglect us. yes there is huge difference between rich and poor. Death may not concern all these differences yet in this lively life this is all that seems to matter. Every body is hungry and craves and life demands its very requirement. Even the loved and closed ones are at stake without flips of this mere paper called money, and that is exactly why people crave and are attracted towards it.
Although human beings are one race with the mere fact that all are humans, there are so many differences. Not all are equal. Just because we are human doesn't make fulfill all the requirements of being equal. Some are born weak, others strong, some are born high and others low, as such there are lots of discrepancies. Life isn't fair.
Sometime I like to ask question why all this? Why all the differences? yet I am convinced and consoled after all for this is but fact; this is what life is. Not all cocoons goes to becoming butterfly.Not all win and soar,some need to suffer and lose for this is what is called BALANCE. Every one have their own chance, own share and I hope one day or the other my turn too will come by..

The mystery of my Life

We hardly know the value of life and love until we have that unexpected and tragic accident that completely changes the course of our life or unless we really get into the realities of being that crap who seems to be left all alone behind. The perceptions we have to life all changes then and that's when we really get into knowing the very ground realities of what life really is.

Life is fragile and it is one thing called LOVE that enriches and keeps it rigid and going..It gives the strength, the motivation and inspiration and best of all the HOPE, because even without anything but with hope, there is still some space somewhere in life. It beams the dimer light to a brighter one, and lightens the shadowed and darkness. It ignites very little spark into mighty flaring flame of fire.Thats the beauty of hope.But once gone,it is very difficult to revive,and so many prices are to be paid along. It is not that easy to get and not that easy to lose as well. May be its the only reason i am clinging right now. Even the love is secondary to hope. Love comes after the hope and leaves before too. Although the love has all the miracles of qualities to display, it is the hope that retains  and  if it is gone it is only with hope that it could be revived!.

Nothing in life is tethered, because everyone is but a free bird in their own way.Everyone has that right to fly and land. We can either fly to fright. or fly to a flawless field. It is right under our own hand, although the decisions we make have repercussions as well. The demarcations and the boundaries we create are just the demonstrations of anything being subjected to limitations and downfall. when the tide of exact time comes nothing can be barred or resisted. Sometimes life seems to just like cracking joke; a joke being cracked and everyone being fascinated and captured by that. The reactions to that joke just depends on how well its being cracked and the silent meaning behind. Most of us hardly think of that sarcastic meaning that a joke has because we are easily lured and deceived. Remember every joke has but secret truth behind.

I ask myself sometime: Do i really know what Love is or what Life is?  Am i ready to lose before i care about something? Is there someone willing from heart to shed tears if i do? Am i alone? And the good thing is the answers to questions we ask ourselves are but the very answers we might  want to get  from others. The answers are just within.

LEARN TO SAY NO

Life is full of questions. Sometime there are more questions than answers. Sometimes there are questions which have no answers even. And other times there are questions which are answers itself! As such it is either with YES or NO that we live this life. Just with YES only and without No is incomplete and vice versa. Sometimes the answer No to somebody somewhere on something can be more worthwhile and better than saying YES, as frictions and some kind of restrictions are always needed in the  midst of smoothness. It might be but a very good prevention from deadly accidents down the line.

There are so many choices too in life, so many options to opt, so many paths to walk and whether its  good or bad all depends on two things: YES and NO. We often recieve what we give and hardly give what we recieve(This is what i feel). There is nothing as free lunch, althought credits do exist, but never are we gonna escape without the clearence of those credits. This is what is called 'LAYJUDREY'. And this ultimately boils down to saying YES or NO. Some incidents in life comes as disguised, as masked which we often fail to notice and our consciousness is such that its really easy to say YES than to say NO. We often say more YES than NO. when we are being tempted by those unreal and masked and disguised temptations we are left with nothing but to accept with obvious YES. The YES is one word which comes so easily from one's mouth and hardly do we remember that in the farflung corner, there is yet another word NO waiting patiently and eagerly which requires bit more courage to say, bit more time to think upon and analyze, and bit more patience, and may be thats why it has got more VALUE. It hardly comes out and this is what adds to it the preciousness.

There are so many incidents in life which definitely requires NO. The unreal temptations that deteriorates the very health like drugs and drinks are but few to be mentioned. But being human with untrainned mind, we live in the midst of mistakes, becomes the slave to YES and ultimately becomes the servants. ( Atleast to me). It is at times when we have to say NO to our dearest and loved ones, because we feel its right which actually is wrong that we fail to notice the trick of NO.I wish i had that fortune and guts to say NO before the word YES.

Ten Tips to build strong relationship....

1. Have a strong commitment to making your relationship work.
2. Think of yourselves as friends, not just as a couple.
3. Accept each other's limitations.
4. See yourselves as equal partners
5. Pay attention to how you communicate.
6. Develop a support system.
7. Handle disagreements constructively.

8. Make sure each of you has some privacy and independence. 

9. Share rituals and traditions

 

10. Have fun.

THE MYSTERY OF LIFE

 Some incidents in life make us laugh and smile, some incidents invites rain of tears to our eyes while some changes the cute faces of ours to awkward and colored faces. There are still other situations and incidents in life which just remind us to remember, stand and stare.And these moments are never fixed and time tabled because nothing in life can be predicted or predefined.Everything changes and it is only time that heals with the flow of so called life.
A moment of smile and laugh can often invite rains of tears. An incident which is a moment of joy for one may not necessarily be the same to another. Sometimes blessings come through raindrops and healing comes through tears.And sometimes the trails of this life, the rains that storms the hardest nights are often the mercies in disguise. There is nothing like constancy except the word itself. A moment of gain may bestow moment of happiness, its not always it vanishes just like a simple breeze that flows at the side of Ocean. We may Love and be Loved but does that mean it will last forever? Can we give guarantee that it will be eternal?
I have always been filled with doubts and suspicions regarding the life i am leading. Every moment, i spent my time just staring or otherwise gazing around my life.I have momentarily and frequently thought if all these happenings are but curse that will ruin my life or are but blessings in disguise. Because what i have noticed and realized out of life (at least up to this stage) is: "we humans tends to remember only the negatives, darker, emotional,and most grievance parts of moments and rarely do we remember those moments that were spent joyously with pride and smile on our face".It seems so partial just like we are suffering from some kind of illness. Yes memories do play very confusing role in our life.It makes you laugh when you remember the time you cried together but invites tears when you remember the time you laughed together.
Now the questions that runs through my guts are:
1. What does all these mean?
2.Am I the only one to experience these types of emotional state?
3. Is this a kind of lesson i needed to learn?
4.Will overcome and become a better person?
5.Am I taking the right track? ......

well these are but the basic questions i asks daily to myself  not because i hate being human but because i don't know how to cope with life. Human life is really wonderful if spent wisely and i do really want to try and attain that state some fine day......

MY BEST FRIEND

Without you life seems so monotonous my dear

With gestures of warmth and tokens of affections

I wish if we are here physically near

The unsolicited advice and unwelcomed attention

The boundless time and energy you sacrificed

Has always oiled the cogs of  my life

The true and sincere sentiments we shared

Shedded the very shackles of my life

Alone may be we at a time or other

Yet separation is a mere illusion

The momentous moments we share

Are but eternal memories of emotion

As this lovely life cease to roll
So will you with my own soul

THE POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE...

Life is wonderful when shared with some one who understands one's understanding
Life is beautiful when we have someone to whom we can stand and stare
Life is easy when there is someone whom we can rely and lend their hand
Life is smooth when there is someone who can grease and lubricate all rusts
Life is trustworthy when there is someone who can trust one's own trust
Life is healthy when there is someone who heals old sores and wound
Life is full of fun when played with someone who understands the rule of game
Life is refreshing when leaned under the shadow of someone's arm
Life is easy healing when comforted with undoubted truth and no lie
Life is cool when one's sweat is being swept by someone we trust
Life is always hopeful when walked with someone we always wanted
Life is all the more perfect when there is someone who understands imperfectness
                                                                                            (Dedicated to my love....cheers!!!!!!!!)