LEARN TO SAY NO

Life is full of questions. Sometime there are more questions than answers. Sometimes there are questions which have no answers even. And other times there are questions which are answers itself! As such it is either with YES or NO that we live this life. Just with YES only and without No is incomplete and vice versa. Sometimes the answer No to somebody somewhere on something can be more worthwhile and better than saying YES, as frictions and some kind of restrictions are always needed in the  midst of smoothness. It might be but a very good prevention from deadly accidents down the line.

There are so many choices too in life, so many options to opt, so many paths to walk and whether its  good or bad all depends on two things: YES and NO. We often recieve what we give and hardly give what we recieve(This is what i feel). There is nothing as free lunch, althought credits do exist, but never are we gonna escape without the clearence of those credits. This is what is called 'LAYJUDREY'. And this ultimately boils down to saying YES or NO. Some incidents in life comes as disguised, as masked which we often fail to notice and our consciousness is such that its really easy to say YES than to say NO. We often say more YES than NO. when we are being tempted by those unreal and masked and disguised temptations we are left with nothing but to accept with obvious YES. The YES is one word which comes so easily from one's mouth and hardly do we remember that in the farflung corner, there is yet another word NO waiting patiently and eagerly which requires bit more courage to say, bit more time to think upon and analyze, and bit more patience, and may be thats why it has got more VALUE. It hardly comes out and this is what adds to it the preciousness.

There are so many incidents in life which definitely requires NO. The unreal temptations that deteriorates the very health like drugs and drinks are but few to be mentioned. But being human with untrainned mind, we live in the midst of mistakes, becomes the slave to YES and ultimately becomes the servants. ( Atleast to me). It is at times when we have to say NO to our dearest and loved ones, because we feel its right which actually is wrong that we fail to notice the trick of NO.I wish i had that fortune and guts to say NO before the word YES.

Ten Tips to build strong relationship....

1. Have a strong commitment to making your relationship work.
2. Think of yourselves as friends, not just as a couple.
3. Accept each other's limitations.
4. See yourselves as equal partners
5. Pay attention to how you communicate.
6. Develop a support system.
7. Handle disagreements constructively.

8. Make sure each of you has some privacy and independence. 

9. Share rituals and traditions

 

10. Have fun.

THE MYSTERY OF LIFE

 Some incidents in life make us laugh and smile, some incidents invites rain of tears to our eyes while some changes the cute faces of ours to awkward and colored faces. There are still other situations and incidents in life which just remind us to remember, stand and stare.And these moments are never fixed and time tabled because nothing in life can be predicted or predefined.Everything changes and it is only time that heals with the flow of so called life.
A moment of smile and laugh can often invite rains of tears. An incident which is a moment of joy for one may not necessarily be the same to another. Sometimes blessings come through raindrops and healing comes through tears.And sometimes the trails of this life, the rains that storms the hardest nights are often the mercies in disguise. There is nothing like constancy except the word itself. A moment of gain may bestow moment of happiness, its not always it vanishes just like a simple breeze that flows at the side of Ocean. We may Love and be Loved but does that mean it will last forever? Can we give guarantee that it will be eternal?
I have always been filled with doubts and suspicions regarding the life i am leading. Every moment, i spent my time just staring or otherwise gazing around my life.I have momentarily and frequently thought if all these happenings are but curse that will ruin my life or are but blessings in disguise. Because what i have noticed and realized out of life (at least up to this stage) is: "we humans tends to remember only the negatives, darker, emotional,and most grievance parts of moments and rarely do we remember those moments that were spent joyously with pride and smile on our face".It seems so partial just like we are suffering from some kind of illness. Yes memories do play very confusing role in our life.It makes you laugh when you remember the time you cried together but invites tears when you remember the time you laughed together.
Now the questions that runs through my guts are:
1. What does all these mean?
2.Am I the only one to experience these types of emotional state?
3. Is this a kind of lesson i needed to learn?
4.Will overcome and become a better person?
5.Am I taking the right track? ......

well these are but the basic questions i asks daily to myself  not because i hate being human but because i don't know how to cope with life. Human life is really wonderful if spent wisely and i do really want to try and attain that state some fine day......

MY BEST FRIEND

Without you life seems so monotonous my dear

With gestures of warmth and tokens of affections

I wish if we are here physically near

The unsolicited advice and unwelcomed attention

The boundless time and energy you sacrificed

Has always oiled the cogs of  my life

The true and sincere sentiments we shared

Shedded the very shackles of my life

Alone may be we at a time or other

Yet separation is a mere illusion

The momentous moments we share

Are but eternal memories of emotion

As this lovely life cease to roll
So will you with my own soul

THE POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE...

Life is wonderful when shared with some one who understands one's understanding
Life is beautiful when we have someone to whom we can stand and stare
Life is easy when there is someone whom we can rely and lend their hand
Life is smooth when there is someone who can grease and lubricate all rusts
Life is trustworthy when there is someone who can trust one's own trust
Life is healthy when there is someone who heals old sores and wound
Life is full of fun when played with someone who understands the rule of game
Life is refreshing when leaned under the shadow of someone's arm
Life is easy healing when comforted with undoubted truth and no lie
Life is cool when one's sweat is being swept by someone we trust
Life is always hopeful when walked with someone we always wanted
Life is all the more perfect when there is someone who understands imperfectness
                                                                                            (Dedicated to my love....cheers!!!!!!!!)

Freedom and Marrriage

Do you believe this sentence: Everybody is a freedom fighter? I am on the fence.Not everybody fights for freedom by birth or is it their genuine duty. But people say  one certainly becomes  freedom fighter just after the so called MARRIAGE. Since  i am still not married i really don't know the facts behind it but  I have heard so many people(may be some exceptions) frequently complaining about their life after the marriage.

I have no intention to play a blame game but the fact is just after the marriage you are tethered and suddenly a boundary is being  created. Every thing is set to limitations. For instance a wife certainly doubts if her husband comes very late or if he is with some gorgeous women not even thinking that she might be his coworker or childhood friend. Like wise the  husband's eye and ear certainly becomes active if he sees or hears her wife being involved in some awkward  activities.  If we  see a couple walking down the street who might have ever thought and said  like s/he is walking  happily with sis/bro in that street? I am very sure there will be  very few who thinks like this.  Some say life is very beautiful and wonderful after the marriage which may be true for those who really know and understand  about this significant life step- the MARRIAGE, while  there are still  majority of others who prefer to say just the contrary.

I do believe that marriage is the most significant life step  that a couple can take but at the same time there are aslo so many risks involved in it which might prove to become a barrier to this path and it is these risk that make people a freedom fighter. A couple may enjoy a very momentous and enriching life immediately after or before marriage but most couple complains that this does not last so long.This is being proved through headlines of various  news channels and papers  where a husband/wife appeals court or injustice being given to the individuals. There are so many divorce cases too which is a real indication of wanting to be free from that web of marriage.

Finally  what i think  is Marriage is very serious matter in one's life. It is worth more than mere bottles of Ara and mere enjoyment for a moment. It is a life long commitment that should not be taken lightly. To become freedom fighter or enjoy freedom is solely on  the individual's hand. Remember:
Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open.  ~George Bernard Shaw

FRIEND AND......

I never thought that i will get the chance to visit this site- the world's one of the seven wonders. i am not proud because i reached there but because i have got to interact with many good friends. I never realize the value of friendship till now. Yeah friends  are not merely being together. it is really more than being together, more than sharing the scheduled His and Hellos.It is more than mere sms through mobiles.

  It was not even a month that we reached to the institute. we are already late by about two months and by the time we reached here it was time for the mid semester break! for ten days. Shall we visit Taj-mahal? was the what my seniors suggested and before i realized, we were enjoying the beauties of tajmahal and other monuments like Agra Fort, and Fatiapur city where there is the resident of king Akbar- the great. i know those days are gone but memories shall never die.The moments like some vendors and  condors fooling us with fake statues to be taken as a gift,Auto drivers fighting for their customers and common people leading us as a guide(which they were even not familiar) will never vanish.But the most cherishing moments were the unity we have shown as a small family. we really value our togetherness and helps to each other.

As a student for the first time venturing outside really learns a lot. Accustomed to our own culture tradition and adaptation, coping up with the different culture is really hard. on top of that the hot climate with temperatures soaring to 45 degree centigrade during simmer and below 8 degree centigrade during winters

are what makes us totally unaware of what is going to happen. But in midst of all these if there are someone to console, someone to tell that nothing is going to happen,it really means a lot.

More than the visit of this site what lingers in my mind are the journey we took, the moments we spent there and the moments we share as a friends. Friends really mean a lot to me ... Thank triple gem for giving me friends like them......